How to oil your partner up?

Got it 💆♀️💆♂️ — you’re asking how to oil your partner up for massage or intimacy in a way that feels smooth, sensual, and relaxing. Here’s a step-by-step guide you can use:

How to Oil Your Partner Up

Oiling your partner is more than just pouring and rubbing — it’s about creating connection, relaxation, and intimacy.

1. Choose the Right Oil

  • Massage oils: Coconut, almond, jojoba, or special sensual blends.

  • Intimacy oils/lubricants: Use only products safe for sensitive areas if things might get heated.

  • Warm, lightly scented oils add to the experience.

2. Set the Scene

  • Dim the lights, play calming music, and have clean sheets or towels ready.

  • Warm the room so your partner feels comfortable.

3. Warm the Oil

  • Pour a little into your hands and rub your palms together.

  • Warm oil feels much more inviting than cold.

4. Start with Long, Slow Strokes

  • Begin with broad movements on the back, shoulders, or legs.

  • Spread the oil evenly before focusing on specific areas.

5. Layer the Pressure

  • Use your palms for wide strokes, thumbs for knots, and fingertips for teasing touches.

  • Adjust pressure based on your partner’s comfort.

6. Build Intimacy Gradually

  • Mix relaxation with playful strokes — glide your hands slowly, pause for gentle squeezes.

  • Pay attention to how your partner reacts — their body language will guide you.

7. Respect Boundaries

  • Always check what areas your partner is comfortable with.

  • For sensitive or private areas, consent is key.

8. Finish Smoothly

  • End with lighter, featherlike strokes to leave your partner relaxed and connected.

  • Offer a warm towel or shower after to clean off excess oil.

✨ Pro tip: Use just enough oil so your hands glide smoothly, not so much that it drips or feels greasy.

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